5 lessons to learn from an unexpected breakup
Overnight and without notice, you are told: “It’s over, I don’t want you.”. And after ?
unexpected a breakup is, the more painful it is. Neuroscience indicates that during the experience of rejection, the same areas are activated as during physical pain, making the suffering very “real.” Also, with grief, you feel like a part of yourself, of your life, is being “ripped off”. If we add to this the addictive effects of love and infatuation, then we have a psychologically very explosive cocktail. With this panorama, it is not surprising that relationship problems today occupy most of the reasons for going to a psychological consultation.
Once the psychological effects of love are briefly contextualized, this is a message for both those who leave (or plan to) and those who stay. Overnight and without notice, you are told: “ It’s over, I don’t want you.” It is very painful, no doubt. However, from this experience, we can learn things. They can be summarized in the following 5 points:
1. No one deserves to be dumped like this
Under normal conditions (i.e. if there has been no betrayal, infidelity, repeated disrespect, abuse, etc.), no one deserves to be despised by the overnight , without notice.
