5 signs that you lack emotional maturity

Amelia Mia
4 min readMay 6, 2022
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Although the term immature is used in connection with the process of growing up in the adult world, in this case we are talking about maturity in the context of emotions.

Although the term immature is used to refer to the process of growing into the adult world, in this case we are talking about maturity in the context of emotions . What does it mean to be emotionally immature and why is it not a trivial question?

The presence of any of these characteristics does not necessarily imply that we can define ourselves as emotionally immature. The following are guidelines but have no diagnostic significance. Moreover, affective immaturity is a condition that can evolve with growth. Maturity is a process and not everyone is necessarily at the same stage.

What is affective immaturity?

An emotionally immature subject assumes childish behavior that is ultimately inappropriate for their chronological and emotional age. Here are 5 signs that this is a condition that could affect you as well.

1) Divert conversations

A whole range of behaviors can fall into this category. For example, immature people tend to shy away from those conversations that go beyond superficiality. They feel a kind of unease when their emotions, past mistakes, or anything that involves reflection and introspection is brought to the fore.

They tend to bury anything that leads to painful emotional consequences, preferring to avoid what produces pain rather than trying to work on it . This category also includes an immature person’s inability to take responsibility for their actions, struggling to admit their faults, seeking the simplest solution, which is to blame someone else (Heitler , 2016)

2) Being egocentric

Dr. Susan Heitler reportedly pointed out that self-centeredness and in some ways narcissism are often associated with emotional immaturity . Like children, adults with emotional immaturity may exhibit significant attention-seeking behavior from others. People with these characteristics find it difficult to understand another’s point of view and to understand anything beyond their needs and benefits (Heitler 2016). The focus is exclusively…



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