Couple: what to do when you no longer understand each other?

Amelia Mia
6 min readMay 7, 2022
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How to solve problems in a relationship and feel understood when you argue?

Disagreeing with a loved one isn’t necessarily a bad thing. What hurts is when you don’t know how to fix problems in a relationship. Misunderstandings between you and someone you love can trigger the worst stresses of your life.

These tips can help you feel more understood and heard again.

First, look at why we’re so easily misunderstood

In the beginning, love makes it easy to feel understood. We have a lot of goodwill and less emotional history involved, so we can be kind and open. We may not care how to solve problems in a relationship. All that goodwill can make relationship problems easy to resolve.

Time passes. Once we become familiar with a person, we begin to rely on the fast, automatic brain. Communication problems enter into every relationship.

But now, when you try to talk with your partner, do you think things like these:

  • My partner does not understand me;
  • He takes everything I say badly;
  • My partner does not understand me emotionally;
  • I can’t talk to him about how I feel.



Amelia Mia

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