How to recognize and unmask a manipulator?

Amelia Mia
4 min readMay 7, 2022
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Learn common tactics of emotional manipulators to know if you are facing a manipulator or not!

Although all humans are manipulative to some degree, there are few things more treacherous than a bad person with good people skills. They will lie, cheat, treat you badly, and somehow manage to make it all look like your fault.

Manipulators rarely act early in a relationship. They usually take the time to build a foundation of trust by encouraging you to share your challenges, hopes, and dreams with them. It feels good to have someone who cares about you and it makes them seem caring and selfless, but what they’re really doing is looking for vulnerabilities that they can later use for their own benefit . .

They will then gradually test various weak points a little at a time to see how far they can push you. This is precisely what makes them so hard to spot until they have fully inserted themselves into your life. It might be tempting to assume that women are much more susceptible to emotional manipulators , but that’s not the case. Please keep in mind that ultimately, grooming is a form of abuse, and research studies indicate that people of all genders and ages have reported experiencing adverse effects from this treatment.

6 common tactics of emotional manipulators

To unmask the emotional manipulators among us, let’s take a look at some of their most common tactics and see if any of them sound familiar.

1. They put you down

A signature technique of the emotional manipulator is making remarks/criticisms, often disguised as humor or sarcasm to point out your flaws and make you feel foolish. Then when you complain about it, they’ll turn it around saying you’re too sensitive and judgmental. The goal is to make you feel inferior because then you are easier to control.

2. It’s never their fault

The emotional manipulator has a knack for spinning the most ridiculous lies with the utmost conviction, and if that involves a problem, it’s never their fault. For example, you arrive at work to find that you missed an important meeting because your manipulative roommate never told you about the phone call with the time change. Instead of accepting responsibility for…



Amelia Mia

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