The mask within us: appearing towards being

Amelia Mia
2 min readJan 29, 2022
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The person is a complicated system of relations between the individual conscience and society , a kind of mask that serves on the one hand to make a certain impression on others, on the other to hide the true nature of the individual. Originally the person was the mask that the actor wore and that indicated the part he represented. Society demands, must demand, that each one represents his part as best as possible . Behind the mask the so-called private life is born. The world induces a certain way of behaving and those in professional roles force themselves to conform to these expectations. The risk is only to become identical to the person: The professor to his textbook and the tenor to his voice. With some exaggeration it could also be said that the person is not what one really is, but what he and others believe him to be.

The needs of a couple or a family can lead to the formation of different people, thus creating a wide repertoire of masks , which are used in specific social situations. The origin of the person lies in the expectations that can concern both private and professional roles; identification with these expectations can also take place in the sphere of the unconscious, therefore it becomes difficult for the individual to distinguish which of the characteristics exhibited on the outside are authentic, or rooted in his own personality, and which are born as a result of a forced adjustment.

The classic image of the person is characterized by those qualities that are judged in a predominantly positive way by a social community. In a social context such as the family, however, both someone expects an important function for the family system, it is possible that even the attributions of negative content lead to the formation of a corresponding person. So it can happen that someone takes on, for example, the role of the black sheep or the scapegoat. The person must therefore not necessarily contain only qualities judged positive in the social context, but can also derive from strictly individual attributions, even negative ones.

It is necessary to reject and remove all those aspects that do not enter the desired image and therefore must be removed; the place where such contents are placed, each time removed, is called Shadow.

The person serves not only as an external presentation, therefore for overcoming reality and good functioning in the social context, but also as a protective screen that helps the individual to limit the demands of external influences . The problem arises when there is a one-sided development that leads to excessive identification with the person, thus creating rigid and undisputed role models that lead to a limited Person.

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Amelia Mia

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